Top 8 Smartphone Apps to Stimulate Her Erotic Mind

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The fastest way to arouse a man is often by physical touch. Think about it. You could be eating dinner and if your woman reaches under the table and starts stroking your cock through your pants, it will spring into action, and within moments dinner is no longer the most important task at hand.

But if you think doing the same thing to her would (or should) be met with the same response, you’re sorely out of touch with how women work.

To arouse a woman, engage her erotic mind.

It’s no wonder the romance novel industry is over $1 billion with a core of regular readers over 29 million strong (according to the Romance Writers of America®). Romance novels get to the heart of the matter, stimulating her with sexual fantasies of fiction that entice her erotic mind. And once her mind is in the right place, her body will follow.

Her arousal is key. It starts long before you’re both naked nipping at each other’s bits. It starts with how you relate to each other when you wake up, how you communicate throughout your day, and how you come together in the evening. If you can guarantee that she’s mentally aroused, you’ve won half the battle (the other half being the removal of obstacles between her and sex, but that’s a topic for another day).

But where do you start? What can you do today to jump-start the mental enthusiasm for sex? How can you play with her mind? Here are some of the tools that I use to keep The Wife engaged both when we’re apart and when we’re together.

Note from The Wife: If your woman is career focused, raising children, has a to-do list the size of Santa’s Christmas List, or is otherwise run ragged, tasking her with another thing to do will just feel like a chore. The goal of these tools is to have buy-in. Making it a chore will benefit no one.

Without further ado, let’s dive in:

MojoUpgrade.com

One of the first tools The Wife and I used to see what we were into together was MojoUpgrade. It’s a simple quiz that asks if you’re interested in doing specific sexual things. You complete the quiz, then hand it over to your partner to complete. It then shows you all the things you both want to do. Some interesting ones include: Have her swallow my cum, anally penetrate her, use restraints on her, double penetrate her with me and a toy, include another female/male in sex, be pegged by her, etc. There are plenty of group options, BDSM options, etc. It is thorough.

I’ll admit, if either you or your partner is not very adventurous, it might be less exciting. You may not learn much. But if you’re both curious, and just needed something to nudge you in the right direction, MojoUpgrade is a great first stop.

36 Questions

iOS, Android, Web
Originally published in The New York Times Modern Love, 36 Questions is a list of questions you answer with a partner to fall in love (or fall deeper in love). Less on the nose sexually, the vulnerability of answering these questions honestly with your partner is supposed to foster greater closeness and intimacy. Questions get into your childhood, personal desires, sharing embarrassing stories, describing your last cry, and many other questions for which you might be interested in knowing your partner’s answer. Try it and report back.

Desire

iOS, Android
Desire is a competitive dare game to be played with your partner. You install the app, create an account together, and then set off daring each other to do things for points. Other features in the app include an encrypted messaging system so that you can send each other racy pictures or messages without Big Brother taking a peek, a shared to-do list, a shared journal, and some other features specific to the game aspect. So what kinds of dares are included? Here are some fun ones:

  • Turn off the alarm clock and wake me up with your naked body.
  • I’ll book us the best table at a nice restaurant and order some wine, but you have to go commando.
  • Let’s see if you can turn me on without touching me.
  • Dance for me. Do a striptease while I record it.

You can also fill in your own dares, set the number of points earned, and give a timeline for them. I could see this being used for everything from silly and sexy dares to chores around the house. If you’re a competitive couple, this could be brilliant.

Sexy Truth or Dare

I didn’t choose a specific app here, but searching through the iOS App Store and Android Play Store there are plenty of good options. Less a long-term commitment and more fun for a night, these apps are loaded with Truths and Dares setup to get things hot and heavy quickly. Some sexy truths and dares include:

  • Truth: How old were you the first time you made love?
  • Truth: What is the weirdest place you’ve ever masturbated?
  • Truth: Are you more dominant or submissive in bed?
  • Dare: Suck your partner’s ear.
  • Dare: Take a picture of your partner’s ass. Keep it in your phone.
  • Dare: Beg your partner to spank you.

For the more adventurous of you, some of these Sexy Truth or Dare games have a group aspect, meaning you can play with other couples. We haven’t tried playing with others, but I can imagine an exciting night would ensue.

Couple & Between

The Wife and I have spent significant stretches of time using both of these apps. They have different strengths and weaknesses. We ultimately spent more time using Couple because we liked the secret function for sending pictures. Basically, you can send pictures that are blurred by default, and your partner can only see them by pressing on the picture. As soon as they take their finger off the screen it goes blurry again. This ensures no sexy accidents where the old lady behind you in the grocery store line sees the picture your partner sent of himself cooking you dinner in the nude. Does that sound specific? Well, that’s because it happened.

If you like to send sexy pictures, and don’t want the old lady behind your partner to catch a glimpse of your ass in front of the stove, get the app, spare the people around you.

Kindu

iOS, Android
Kindu is like a mobile, lite version of MojoUpgrade. You install the app, pair up with your partner, and go through activities marking “I like this idea”, “I’m open to this idea”, or “Not even on your birthday.” When you and your partner match on an activity it notifies you both. You can also record your achievements (when you act on a matched activity). Since the only notifications happen if you’re both open to the idea, you never have to worry about exposing a kinky interest if your partner isn’t down to try it. In the scientific world, we call that double-blind.

OhMiBod

OhMiBod is an intriguing concept. Luxurious sex toys with wifi and/or bluetooth connectivity. Control your pleasure (or your partner’s) with your phone from anywhere in the world. With a panty vibe, a rabbit-style vibrator, a vibrating butt plug, a ‘versatile massager’ AKA insertable wearable vibrator, you have plenty of pleasurable options. While The Wife and I have yet to try their products, we’d love to get our hands on one. If/When we do, we’ll definitely give you the inside scoop.

That concludes our list of digital tools to stimulate her erotic mind. Try one, or try all of them. Let us know how your experience goes and tell us which is your favorite. Did we leave out a good one? Drop a comment below with your recommendation.

About the author

The Husband

By day he's a prominent healthcare professional, but by night he shows his true self; a sex-obsessed husband with a knack for blogging. His musings include sex aids and relationship enhancements, exploring sex-related ideas and fantasies, and writing erotic short stories.

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