Our Sexual Vocabulary

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Everyone has their own sexual vocabulary. Maybe you prefer more clinical terms like penis, vagina, and sexual intercourse. Or perhaps you’re a fan of slang and colloquials like cock, pussy, and fucking. While this list is by no means exhaustive, it will give you insights into our sexual vocabulary and what we use to describe sex. This is just the basics. As the site progresses and we continue developing our sexual narrative, this list will continue to expand.


Adultery – voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.

Affair – The act of which a person in a committed relationship or marriage isnt faithful to their partner.

Anal Sex – sexual activity involving penetration of the anus.

Arousal – the arousal of sexual desire, during or in anticipation of sexual activity.

BDSM – refering to a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics.

Blowjob – an act of oral sex performed on a man.

Boner – slang for an erect penis

Boobs – slang for a woman’s breasts

Climax – the most intense, exciting, or important point of something; a culmination or apex. Commonly used in reference to achieving an orgasm.

Clit (Clitoris) – a small, sensitive, erectile part of the female genitals at the anterior end of the vulva.

Cock – slang for a penis

Compersion – The feeling of joy associated with seeing a loved one love another; contrasted with jealousy.

Consent – permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.

Cum (noun) – slang for the liquid that comes out of the penis during ejaculation

Cum (verb) – slang for having an orgasm, to feel the sensation of an orgasm.

Cunnilingus – stimulation of the female genitals using the tongue or lips.

Dick – slang for a penis

Dildo – an object shaped like an erect penis used for sexual stimulation.

Dominance / Dominant – means to be in control. Refers to an aspect of BDSM regarding power play.

Eating Ass – To lick or tongue the anus of a person (man or woman) for the purpose of arousing that person and perhaps yourself

Exhibitionism – is the act of exposing in a public or semi-public context those parts of one’s body that are not normally exposed – for example, the breasts, genitals or buttocks. A common fantasy.

Fantasy – an imagined sexual scene that intensifies emotional and physical excitement by helping people play out their most intense sexual desires, fears, or memories

Fap – slang for male masturbation

Fingering – the use of fingers or hands to sexually stimulate the vulva, vagina, or the anus. It may be done for sexual arousal or foreplay, mutual masturbation, or constitute the entire sexual encounter.

Flirt – behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.

Foreplay – erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse; can be physical or mental stimulation.

Fucking – slang for the act of sexual intercourse.

Getting Laid – slang for having sexual intercourse.

Giving Head – slang for the act of performing oral sex on someone, typically a male.

Going Down – slang for the act of performing oral sex on someone, male or female.

Handjob – slang for stimulation of another person’s penis with the hand.

Hooking Up – slang for meeting up for the purpose of sexual activity of any sort. Generally refers to non-committed sexual activity.

Horny – feeling or arousing sexual excitement

Infidelity – the action or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner.

Intimacy – an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy

Jealousy –  is the feeling of anger or bitterness that someone has when they wish that they could have the qualities or possessions that another person has. Commonly refers to a feeling of insecurity aroused by an action (or suspicion) that threatens one’s security in a relationship.

Lube – slang for personal lubricant, specialized substances used during human sexual acts such as intercourse and masturbation to reduce friction to or between the penis and vagina, anus or other body parts or applied to sex toys to reduce friction or to ease penetration.

Making Love – sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between two people. Commonly includes emotional intimacy as well, rather than casual, physical focused intercourse.

Masturbation – stimulation of the genitals with the hand or another object for sexual pleasure.

Mutual Masturbation – A sexual activity in which two or more persons simultaneously masturbate themselves and/or one another

Open Marriage – a marriage or relationship in which both partners agree that each may have sexual relations with others.

Oral Sex – sexual activity in which the genitals of one partner are stimulated by the mouth of the other; fellatio or cunnilingus.

Orgasm – a climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals and (in men) experienced as an accompaniment to ejaculation.

Partner – A person with whom someone has had sex; a sex partner.

Polyamory – the practice of engaging in multiple sexual relationships with the consent of all the people involved.

Pussy – slang for vagina

Quickie – a brief act of sexual intercourse.

Rape Fantasy – or a ravishment is a sexual fantasy involving imagining or pretending being coerced or coercing another into sexual activity.

Romantic attraction – is an emotional response, which most people experience at one point or another, that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the recipient.

Safe Sex – sexual activity in which people take precautions to protect themselves against sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS.

Sensual – relating to or involving gratification of the senses and physical, especially sexual, pleasure.

Sexual attraction – an emotional response sexual people feel where they find someone sexually appealing, and often results in a desire for sexual contact with the person

Spouse – a husband or wife, considered in relation to their partner.

Submissiveness / Submissive – one who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another.  Refers to an aspect of BDSM regarding power play.

Vibrator – a device used for massage or sexual stimulation.

Voyeurism – the practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.

About the author

The Husband

By day he's a prominent healthcare professional, but by night he shows his true self; a sex-obsessed husband with a knack for blogging. His musings include sex aids and relationship enhancements, exploring sex-related ideas and fantasies, and writing erotic short stories.

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